I’m feeling a bit off these days. I’ve been trying to blame the moon (full moon last week) and/or Mercury (retrograde hit yesterday), but I’m not so sure that’s the thing. Also…poor moon and Mercury. They get blamed for so many things that are just no-brainers. I kinda feel sorry for them.
The truth is (okay…MY OPINION IS…) that, maybe, the lack of grounding is an internal clash. Something I can’t quite put my finger on, but something that just isn’t working anymore. I get like this sometimes, and it’s taken me quite a while to articulate it to myself in a way that makes me feel more at ease.
The fact is I believe it comes down to values.
Yep. Values. Not the moon. Not Mercury. Just me and my own set of beliefs and values creating all these challenges. Although I believe in the whole moon cycle/retrograde thing – I also believe in personal accountability. I can feel wonky on a full moon day, but how I react is really a choice. In other words, blaming the moon for my being an asshole seems…well…wrong and, dare I say, a bit emotionally immature.
Maybe…just maybe…we can explore this together. So, grab a drink and settle in. Let’s get real about this, and let’s kick off the conversation with a doozy of a statement.
If you’re experiencing inner disturbance it could be because of a lil’ ol’ thing called “values-clashing.”
Here’s an example:
If you say you value ‘family’ but your job keeps you from going to your daughter’s ballet recital and son’s football games more often than not, then your value and what your company expects you to value are out of synch.
Here are three ways value-clashing shows up for many of us.
- You value peace, but you find yourself anxious and argumentative most of the time. This shows up for me with social media. I typically only log in to FB three times a day. I do the following: Say happy birthday to whomever it applies, check to see if anyone experience a ‘loss’ and acknowledge that, and lastly, promote my work or my efforts in volunteerism. That’s it. I don’t care who is or who isn’t vaccinated. I don’t care which political yay-who is doing whatever, and I certainly don’t put my two cents in regarding gas prices. But. I used to. Until I realized it stole my peace. Now I don’t. (I also ‘unfriend’ like I’m decluttering my pantry. I just don’t have time for chaos.)
- You spend money on things that deplete the funds you could use to develop/gain insight into what makes you happy. Okay – let’s be clear. I’m going to sound a bit ‘classist’ here because I get that if you make $10/hour, you probably have to work A LOT to simply make ends meet. But those of you with disposable income…who complain about not having the money to (fill in the blank)…I wanna let you in on something. Cutting out lattes and Netflix will only get you so far. You are most likely spending too much on housing, vehicles, and toys – and paying for all that it entails keeping those assets maintained (and I use the term ‘assets’ loosely because, well, because.) I recently purchased an above-ground pool and that thing is needy. So. Very. Needy. I don’t regret it yet, but it’s starting to feel like I might.
- Where you spend your time and money will most likely point to what you value – and if it doesn’t, then you are in the midst of a clash in values. If you look at my bank account you can see that I value my son and his interests and my own self care. I give to charity because I appreciate being a contributing member of my community. I don’t spend much on housing because I don’t feel like this is a permanent situation for me. While my living situation isn’t ideal it does allow me to save money so that my next home is exactly what I want and need (My days of remodeling are over, I think to myself, as the guy in the kitchen continues banging on the boards to install new flooring.) I don’t want to live in southwest Missouri any longer than I have absolutely have to, so I’m making sacrifices as we speak so I can obtain the ideal space and place. Until then, I value time with my kiddo and my own health and wellness. Check my account. You’ll find confirmation of this.
So, what do you value? Does your time, energy, and money display that clearly or are you feeling a clash? Are you in the middle of an inner disturbance that doesn’t seem comfortable? It very well could be the moon and that finicky mistress, Mercury. Or…it could be your Higher Self asking you to reevaluate and – God, I hate this word – pivot.
I found you a song. If you were kinda feeling that it’s time for change, then here’s your sign.